Outer game, my experiences and triumphs

This is a story, a story of a man who grew tired of eating fried chicken while playing counter-strike online, seeing himself become more and more obese in the mirror and striking out with every girl he loved. Oh did he love, he fell for every smile, every small gesture. Obsessing over friends and ended up losing them all

"I think we should just be friends" were the most dreaded words he could hear, and he heard them a lot...

One day this man discovered pickup, he found this strange tall man with furry hats and googles and he took in EVERYTHING

It was a new start, a new life. But the man knew he had to make a few changes to be able to step over to that new life, those steps were what we call Outer game principles

He set himself goals, high goals. First off he set out to lose weight. When you start that journey, it almost seems impossible. But after a couple of weeks, all that extra weight just starts disappearing, you start to feel like there's a purpose to life again. For him it took almost seven months, but he lost over 50 pounds and he felt ecstatic.

Immediately he started to receive attention from women, girls who had ignored him in the past all off a sudden struck up conversations with him. But he knew his work wasn't over.
As he stood by the mirror, he picked up the beard trimmer and shaved, leaving a stubble of beard on his face. He finally had a jawline and he liked the look. Made him look rugged.
This was a start he thought, as he grabbed some hairgel from the cupboard and applied it in the style of David Boreanaz, his television hero. Too bad he didn't have a long flowing duster.

He started going out with all of these routines in his head, his clothes were baggy and unflattering as he struck up conversations with random girls at a nightclub. The jealous girlfriend was a hit, he was all off a sudden surrounded with beautiful girls on a sofa at this club, discussing pictures in a shoebox and spewing lines like "I'm totally adopting you as my little sister" but he didn't feel it. He felt like a fake, even though his night was a success, he wasn't happy. He couldn't pull this off without more adjustments, he felt awkward and silly.

He went back to Mystery, what insights could the tall furry man give him?

Create an avatar!

Creating an avatar is a huge step in molding who you want to be, it's often a lengthy process, a lot of trial and error. But in the end, it is worth it. I tried a lot of different styles until I cracked it. A lot of different jeans, shirts, sweaters, accessories, haircuts.
In the end I knew who I was, rings and necklaces, wristbands and nice shirts, expensive haircuts from professionals and facecream daily. Finally it clicked.

I became a new man, and with the outer game came the self esteem. Self Respect ! It took a while, but with the work I did, I started to appreciate myself. Women appreciated me, and with the external praise came something from within.....courage. Courage to do what I need, to learn what I need to learn!

I took that courage and used it, like pouring gasoline on my ambitions and I went out there, into the field and I said what I needed to say, did what I needed to do. I had my confidence, and thus received all the validation I needed to become even bolder, more confident to do what needed to be done.

There's a lot of shit to be said about outer game, how it fades in comparison to inner game principles. But I say, there can't be one, without the other. Make your case to the world, to build your inner man. Or build your inner man, to find your place in this world.

In the end it's about being happy, and becoming happy is hard work